Insights and Perspectives

Throughout our entire lives, we acquire and collect so many things for ourselves. Most of these things we have might not have similarities but what most of us do have similarities in, is our comparing habits. From the simplest of things we have, we always tend to have comparisons between ours and others. For instance, if you put two babies together and give one of them a simple toy and the other one nothing then the baby with the toy will be happier than the one without any toys. But now if you give a little fancier toy to the one without any toys then the first one will look at his old toy and at the more fancier one and he will try to swap or snatch the new toy. If he cannot get that new toy he will start to cry or do something else to grab the attention of his audience so that he can have the fancier toy for himself. We might even say this is a common nature of babies but even so, it does imply to all of us.

If you're willing to understand then everyone is equal in a way.

From the time we were infants we all have these comparing tendencies. We observe and compare what others have to the things we have. And no matter how good of things we have, this habit of ours will never let us be truly happy. There's always going to be something others have that we don't have. This does not only mean materialistic things, it can be anything. We're not sure exactly why but in our thoughts the things that others have always shines a little more brighter, looks a little more prettier and smells a little more nicer than the things we have. Maybe that's why people say the grass is always greener on the other side.

Comparing habits will destroy happiness.

Even if we have these tendencies to compare things that don't necessarily mean we should do it and spoil our happiness. Sure the things others have might seem nicer but it's always going to be this way. We're never going to be able to completely fill these craves of ours. We are always focused on the things we don't have that we forget to appreciate all the things we actually have. More than being happy about it we end up being sad by comparing it to others. Think of the people who have less than you do. Some people might only wish to be just at your place every day. Just think, the things you have might be shining a little more brighter to others who don't have as much as you do.

Embrace your surrounding, Someday you might realize that they are your greatest treasure.

Breaking our comparing habits.

Most of our priorities these days are set on so many luxuries that even if all of our basic needs are fulfilled we are still unhappy that we don't have more. Our comparing tendencies make us think we have less than others but the truth is we have more than enough. We should be grateful for all the things that surround us. Be grateful that you are alive, you got a chance to experience life. Even if we're able to acquire the most shining of things or the prettiest of things, one day we have to leave it all here and move to a different place. Aim high but don't suffocate your happiness in the process of reaching your goals. Being successful is not the only thing to strive for in life, being happy is one too. Learn to cherish life and be happy.

Comparing Habits

by Manish Pandit on August 06, 2018

Throughout our entire lives, we acquire and collect so many things for ourselves. Most of these things we have might not have similarities...

Responsibilities over choices are sometimes the toughest decisions we have to make in our lives. When you're able to stand at a certain spot with a certain level of understanding, even if you are unaware about it you are automatically obliged to so many variations of responsibilities. These different responsibilities collide with the different choices that we make, even through the course of our daily life. Some so small that they're completely negligible and some so big that they make great impacts throughout our lives. From the surface, responsibilities over choices might seem unfair at first. And we might feel there's no point in choosing responsibilities over the things that we actually want for ourselves but there are greater things at play below the surface that most of us have trouble seeing.

Dilemma of responsibilities over choices

Responsibilities over choices are hard but worth it.

This is pretty obvious that letting go of the things that we want the most just to do the right thing seems harder and at some point in life we might even choose to do what we want over our responsibilities. We're always in a dilemma between whether to let go of the things we want and do the right thing or just take the things we want and forget about the responsibilities. This is a very hard decision that we all have to make and they are surely important too because our lives are affected immensely by the decisions we make.

Responsibilities are like hard concrete based roads. Very hard to make but they stand strong and steady through the course of time. They will keep you in a straight line and will not let you lose your way even if you stumble your way at some point in life. They will help you shape yourself. The decisions you make with keeping responsibility in your head will always be on the right side. These variations of responsibilities will help you become a better person.

From running little errands to taking care of others whatever it might be, just think of them as opportunities to grow and improve yourself. This will help you take the first steps towards not running from your responsibilities and be a better and responsible person.

Responsibilities over choices

by Manish Pandit on July 30, 2018

Responsibilities over choices are sometimes the toughest decisions we have to make in our lives. When you're able to stand at a certai...

We are all living our entire lives with the misleading concepts of perfection. The sensation of acquisition of the perfect things is what drives the most of us to go through severe situations in life. We push ourselves hard enough to be at a spot to acquire all the perfect of things labeled by people. We have a sense of understanding that only with these acquisitions we will be able to label ourselves perfect. Everyone knows what perfect means but have you ever tried to define perfect? Have you ever tried to find out if the word perfect has the same meaning for everyone? For instance, A pen is always a pen for everybody no matter what the situation. However, a blunt hot soup might just be the perfect thing for a homeless guy but not for a millionaire. If we're not that sure if it has the same meaning for everybody else then why do we keep pushing ourselves more than we should, just to achieve something that is labeled perfect by people? This is because we all have the same misleading concepts of perfection inside of our heads.

The word "Perfect" doesn't have the same meaning for everyone.

Impacts of Misleading concepts of Perfection.

We are always following people and without even realizing we are all running in circles. You can never move ahead in life if you're marching on with others in a circle. These false believes we have of the concept of perfection leads us down this circular path in life. These misleading concepts of perfection are so deeply integrated inside some people's head that they waste their whole lives running after something that they don't even know will bring them true peace and satisfaction.They chase these things only because everyone says it's the perfect thing to do.

We are all familiar with the times when we do certain things not because we want to but because we think that it will put us in a spot labeled perfect by others. We do all these sorts of activities only with the expectation that others might observe the works we have accomplished or something we have acquired and hope that they might label us or the life we live to perfection. Neglecting all sorts of dissatisfaction and troubles that comes our way in the process of getting those things that we didn't even want for ourselves in the first place.

Creating your own meaning of perfection.

After we realize that in a sense the word perfect does not have a universal meaning when everyone's understanding and perceiving capacities are considered. We should now be able to step outside of the marching circle of people and make our own way. We can stop chasing after something that we never wanted rather, we can now make efforts to achieve and acquire something we actually want. But this does not imply we should stop doing the right thing to get what we want.

What it does implies is that the perfection according to people are only mere concepts and we should not be blinded by such beliefs. We should work hard consistently for the things that are good for us, things that brings out the best of us and fills our heart and soul with happiness and satisfaction. Make your own perfection and chase them. Don't worry about not being labeled as perfect by others because in the end nothing what people think is going to matter.

Misleading concepts of Perfection

by Manish Pandit on July 23, 2018

We are all living our entire lives with the misleading concepts of perfection. The sensation of acquisition of the perfect things is what ...

We have so many things to worry about that we forget about seeking peace soaking satisfaction. In the process of maturing in life, we are bombarded with responsibilities and priorities. The impacts of these bombarding are so devastating that we even forget the type of person we used to be just two or three years ago. Try remembering yourself two or three years ago, the plans you made, the dreams you kept. You might be surprised to find out that you have completely forgotten your old self.

What we don't realize is that we are constantly shifting our goals to adjust to the current situation. We do it so frequently that we lose track of time when we first started drifting away from our actual goals. And the next thing you know, you are standing at a spot where you would not have even imagined yourself to be at just three years ago.

Realization of seeking peace soaking satisfaction.

Our constant shift in goals creates multiple ripples throughout our efforts that we make to achieve them. Until a certain point, we try to maintain those ripples. But after that point, the amount of ripples exceeds our capacity to sustain them. And we start to synchronize our flow with anything that comes our way. This is a part of adjustment we all have to go through in order to survive. When we are piled with all these things and we have already lost our old dreams and goals, what do we all seek? We seek peace and want to soak satisfaction.

Eventually, deep down inside we all seek the same peace and satisfaction. Because with time you shape yourself to fit into situations at hand. This way so many dreams and aims we have remains unattended. Easy or the hard way we learn to move on. And the only thing we want is, to have peace in our minds and satisfaction in our hearts. True happiness is the satisfaction acquired by the heart and understood by the mind.

But this does not mean we should give up on our dreams. We should always chase something that brings joy into our lives. What this means is, we should not get trapped in our own ripples that we've created. We should always be open about change and accept the possibilities it brings. Even if it means we have to let go of some of our dreams. Because as long as we have peace in our minds and satisfaction in our hearts we will never forget to be happy. And being happy is a very important part of our lives because we've got only one to do it all. Might as well be happy about all the things we're blessed with than to be sad and regret about unnecessary things. Learn to appreciate the things you have than worrying about all the things you don't have.

Seeking Peace Soaking Satisfaction

by Manish Pandit on July 19, 2018

We have so many things to worry about that we forget about seeking peace soaking satisfaction. In the process of maturing in life, we are ...

In all honesty, it is better to make an advantage rather than excuses. We go through so much in life that eventually it will be impossible to rely every time on excuses. We all have a tendency to make an excuse whenever something goes beyond our capabilities or that's what we like to believe in. But in fact what we actually do is, we create boundaries for ourselves that we think are indestructible. These self-made mental constraints of ours will not only prevent us from going beyond those limits. But they will never even let us think of reaching the other side of those walls we have made. And in your defence, you use made up scenarios to encase your inability to perform those tasks that are beyond your boundaries.

We always use terms such as smart, intelligent, talented to people who excel at something. May it be studies, arts, sports or etc. When someone who does very well at something we associate these terms with them. Whenever we are unable to do good at any of such activities we are always prepared with pre-made excuses. And while comparing ourselves to them what do we say? We say he/she had an advantage, it's because they are talented, he/she has an intelligent mind, etc. But the truth is it's not some advantage they have but only the ones we gave them.

Advantages rather than excuses - Always a better decision !

The people who gather the courage to push beyond their limits are considered to be successful in what they do. Those people whom we associate with having an advantage are actually the ones who stopped making excuses and started making their own advantages. They were able to realize that the sooner you started on this journey the faster you can break those barriers and push ahead. Making excuses only sets us on a fixed position surrounded with all of our constraints and limitations to everything.

Sure making an excuse to escape from a problem seems easy and tempting. But what we don't realize is, this is only momentary. You might have escaped from it now but eventually, it will catch up to you. It is only a matter of time because an unsolved problem always remains a problem unless it is solved. You are going to have both direct and indirect impacts on your lives from all the excuses you've made so far. This is inevitable. So, It is better to start today than to suffer tomorrow.

Breaking boundaries - Making advantage rather than excuses.

Enabling yourself to ponder about the endless possibilities beyond your limits. This is one of the effective motivating factors which will help you push through your barriers. Rather than telling others have an advantage and making an excuse you must focus your efforts on creating your own advantage. Unless you are prepared with a strong will and focused determination, you can never go past your limits. One thing what you should understand is, when you've set something in motion it will undoubtedly have an impact. This is a universal law. The only difference is how much time and efforts will it take to make that impact.

The sooner you start the faster the impact will happen. And the next thing you know, you will be surrounded by all the advantages you've created. This will help you understand that the boundaries we have are all only inside of our heads. And it will also make you believe that even we can break our own boundaries and excel at a certain task or an activity. All we need is continuous efforts, strong determination and the most importantly zero excuses.

Advantage rather than excuses

by Manish Pandit on July 17, 2018

In all honesty, it is better to make an advantage rather than excuses. We go through so much in life that eventually it will be impossible...

Perceiving capacities are the perceptions of a person that tells us how they see and understand things in life. We always rely on our senses to provide us with information about everything around us. Based on which we generate sensations and feelings about different things. In simple terms, this is the basic functionality of the senses that we all have. But that doesn't necessarily mean that you and I will perceive about something in the same way. This is because we don't share the same perceiving capacities. That is the reason why we all have a hard time understanding each other.

These differences in an individual's perceiving capacities are caused due to many contributing factors. Every little thing from growing up to maturing in life will affect how you will perceive anything that comes your way. But this doesn't imply that we are never going to understand each other.

Finding a Mutual spot to bridge Perceiving capacities.

We can always find a mutual place where our understandings of a certain thing will have similarity to some extent. We might fall under different spots but we can find ourselves on the same page. To find such mutual spots among each other we first need to understand how a person perceives something.

The best way to know how a person perceives a certain thing is by trying to put yourself in their place or their situation. So that you can get a picture of what they might be going through or you might be able to know why a person behaves in a certain way. If you are able to do that then you might be able to understand a person and their behaviors a little better than before. This way you can eliminate a certain portion of the gap between you and that particular person's perceiving capacity.

Overcoming the gap of Perceiving capacities.

We always try to understand everything in our own ways. If we have some discussions, the first thing what we do is, we always assume ourselves right from the very beginning. It is a part of the human nature to perceive what you know is right. It's like cutting a picture in half and looking at only one-half of it. And then making assumptions based on only that one-half part, not realizing there still exists another half of that same picture.

This means our assumptions and judgement we always make one step ahead of every discussion are based on inadequate information. This is one of the major hindrances that the majority of us have in understanding other people. It is all part of a person's perception and how they perceive things.

What this tells us is, we are looking at a certain thing from a single angle only. When there are multiple angles from where we can see that exact same thing and know and understand more about it than before. The more information you process the better understanding you will have on a subject. Hence, the decisions you make from all those information will be more precise. This will in turn help you bridge the gap of perceiving capacities between individuals and understand them better.

You need to be aware of the fact that there is an existence of differences in perceiving capacities between people at first. To be able to configure all these things before you try to implement them.

Perceiving capacities

by Manish Pandit on July 13, 2018

Perceiving capacities are the perceptions of a person that tells us how they see and understand things in life. We always rely on our sen...

Welcome to Be Insightful. We are always rushing through our hectic routine in life and never really sparing time to acknowledge all the things that surround us. It's like taking a train ride and only paying attention to the inner parts of the train while so many things are going on outside of it. And when you will reach at the end of your station you will realize that you forgot to look outside the train but even if you do realize now, you will have no way of getting back on it and doing it again. So, we must be able to embrace the things around us because we must understand that it is the only ride we're ever going to get.

We are in the possession of the most intelligent and comprehensive mind on this planet but are we in the possession of the capabilities to utilize them in the most optimum way possible? We have evolved from stone ages to the age of AI where a machine can generate its own decision based on its previous actions. And what do we do in this age where a non-living thing can decide for itself what it's going to do next? We are so fixated to put our focus on a single point that we are missing out on all of these extraordinary things which are happening right in front of us. It's not that we don't pay attention to acknowledge them but in fact, we actually even don't know about them at all.

This is a place to know and find the deeper meanings to life. We talk about anything and everything and try to look at things from a different angle. Trying to go a little deeper than the surface that we all dwell on. The more you open yourself the more you will be able to take away your attention from a single point and start to see the bigger picture behind it. The main motive would be to understand more in life which then sets forth self improvement and self empowerment. Like everything else this might not be for everybody and that's completely fine. It's just the way how things are and how things will be.